On a separate piece of paper, write down the answers to these questions:
How I Feel About Therapy
I think therapists are ____________________________________________________________________.
People who go to therapists are ___________________________________________________________.
Participating in therapy now means that I ____________________________________________________.
I am afraid of therapy because ____________________________________________________________.
I’d never go to therapy on my own because __________________________________________________.
I want to do more in therapy but I can’t because ______________________________________________.
Bad experiences I’ve had in therapy so far: __________________________________________________.
Good experiences I’ve had in therapy so far: _________________________________________________.
My personal goals in therapy are __________________________________________________________.
My therapist’s goals for me seem to be ______________________________________________________.
Are the goals you have for yourself and the goals that you believe your therapist has for the same or different? How? ________________________________________________________________________
Have you talked about the goals you have for yourself in therapy with your therapist? If your goals are different, have you discussed this with your therapist? __________________________________________
*It is a good idea to talk about your goals with your therapist. Therapy is for you! It is whatever you want it to be. If you need your therapist to adjust his/her goals, it is a good idea to talk about this with your therapist so that you get out of therapy what you want.
Do you feel your therapist is helpful to you? _________________________________________________.
Do you feel your therapist is supportive of you? ______________________________________________.
Do you feel that your therapist takes what you say seriously? _____________________________________.
Does your therapist teach you skills to take care of yourself? If so, what kinds of skills have you learned so far? _________________________________________________________________________________
If you have a problem with your therapist in session, is your therapist willing to talk about it in the session with you? Do you feel heard when you have a concern? ________________________________________.
What kind of characteristics are you looking for in a therapist? ___________________________________
Are there ways that you block work in therapy? Do you have beliefs that prevent you from working with your therapist, such as: “No one can help me,” “Therapy does not work,” “I won’t tell anyone about my past,” “Feelings are for weak people,” etc. ___________________________________________________________________